Anger is an essential life force. On the other side of anger are passion, drive and healthy desires.
People with repressed anger may find that they rarely feel angry, but experience chronic lethargy and numbness. The problem is that whilst the process is largely unconscious, it takes a lot of energy to suppress and re-divert anger. They are tired because a lot of their essential life force is consumed to deny what they ought to naturally feel.
Another problem is that on the flip side of anger are precious human feelings such as joy, excitement and passion. When a person suppresses anger, they may find many of their other desirable feelings get numbed out too. They find it difficult to get excited or passionate; they may be disconnected from their own needs and desires. They may even find it hard to feel or express affection for others.
Psychoanalysts and psychologists have long known that when anger is repressed and turned inward, it turns into depression. People who have this tendency find themselves feeling sad and down about everything and everyone when actually they are angry about something or someone. This is not just a theory. Research has validated that inner conflicts about anger are an underlying cause for depression.
Being threat sensitive, a highly sensitive person may have an underlying sensitivity towards rejection and fear of abandonment. They fear if they directly express anger, they would be rejected or abandoned by their loved ones. Guilt and the fear that anger will disrupt relationships override all other natural feelings. When anger is suppressed, repressed, redirected inward, it could fester and turn into toxic shame and guilt. Whether consciously or unconsciously, this shame and guilt pave way for depression.
When repressed anger is paired with perfectionistic or obsessive-compulsive tendencies, it may manifest in a self-righteous way, where the person becomes highly critical of themselves and others and set unrelenting standards.
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