Everyday Espionage Podcast - How to Win Every Argument | Andrew Bustamante - YouTube

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• not every conversation goes the way you hope it will go

• so I knew I couldn't change his mind so I had to decide whether I was going to debate with him or whether I was going to essentially 05:23 allow him to fall on his own sword and make a fool of himself through this emotional hijacking

• every conversation is a chance for you to either gain influence or lose influence

• when conversations fall apart it's really difficult because we feel like we have to fight in order to gain the influence from that conversation we feel like if we don't fight then we're going to lose influence we're going to get bullied

• you cannot win an emotional argument with somebody who has become emotionally hijacked it's a lose-lose situation for you so instead you need to Define your own points and simply State and restate your own points

• when someone comes to you with a conversation topic or when someone changes the tone of a conversation and they turn it into an argument or a debate of some sort don't let yourself be goaded into defending yourself 11:06 against their attacks don't let yourself get emotional like they are getting emotional keep in mind that during an argument the last person to get emotionally hijacked is the one most likely to lose the argument

• if two people are having a conversation and the first person gets emotionally hijacked and then their emotional hijacking makes the second person get emotionally hijacked it means that the second person is going to lose the argument even though both people have 11:39 been emotionally hijacked

• whenever you are having any kind of dialogue with an individual publicly or privately your objective is to always gain more influence from that exchange either gain that influence in private with the person or gain that influence in public with the person and or the 12:15 audience watching the conversation

• never letting yourself become the last person to be emotionally hijacked

• the key to winning influence in any kind of dialogue is to be the person who remains steady and non-emotional

• when you're debating with somebody who's 13:19 emotional when you're conversing or arguing with somebody who's emotional keep your cool State your claim defend your claim and essentially act as if the other person doesn't exist if you do that your influence will grow